Happy Valentine’s Day! A day dedicated to this crazy thing called love.
But why “crazy”? you ask. What do you mean by that?
Because nobody knows what causes it. And you risk ruining it by examining it too closely.
Because what else could it be but crazy to open your heart and show someone else what’s in it?
Because loving someone—or something—is the biggest risk you can ever take. If they don’t fail you, the world might. Life happens all around us every single day. And it happens to all of us in different ways all at the same time.
Because if you let love into your heart, it will take up all the space there—and if life happens to the subject of your love in a way that takes it away, the emptiness might just become a black hole that sucks you into the void.
So why, then? If it’s such a big risk, why do we do it? Why do we search for love? Why do we willingly plunge into the risky waters of love?
No one knows. And certainly no one knows better than the poets that no one knows. In his aptly titled poem “Poem”, e.e. Cummings said:
love is the voice under all silences,
the hope which has no opposite in fear;
the strength so strong mere force is feebleness:
the truth more first than sun more last than star
I like this and I feel like it comes closer to identifying the what and the why better than anything I’ve ever read. It’s like “The Force” in Star Wars. Love underlies everything, is everything, the one superhuman strength that you can’t really identify but it’s really there. It makes us stronger and weaker at the same time.
Love—whether it’s for parent, sibling, child, spouse, pet or all things—is the way we connect most intimately with the world. The more we feel, the closer we are to the universe. The more we open ourselves up to love, the more risk we are willing to take for the love—the more fragilely strong we become.
A Million (and 1) Things to Love
By Michelle Garren Flye
Where is love?
But love is there.
Reach for it.
The love of saving,
The love of believing,
The love of finding.
The world is full.
All around you, things to love.
Objects for affection.
A cat, a dog, a child.
A rose, a plant, a sunset.
A soul mate for the very lucky.
Hope will find love.
Trust will strengthen love.
Faith will keep love safe.
Reach for it.
Hold it tight in your heart—
And hope it doesn’t